Caught Using Phone Sex

Q: My wife caught me several months ago doing phone sex. Although I've gotten help for my problem and have not had phone sex since that time, she continues to be distant, critical, angry, and mistrustful.

Most partners feel betrayed and emotionally abandoned by their spouse's phone sex activities, even if a real-life affair has not occurred. Rebuilding trust takes time, many months. Give your partner space and understanding to express his or her hurt and anger without trying to avoid, dismiss, or make it different. In time things will improve. Consider couples counseling, or attending a couples' support group to help work through the rough times.