Celibacy Phil

I am a club DJ in my late twenties, formerly a resident at the world famous Haçienda. My sex life I would assume is similar to many of my generation. Started late teens, continued blah blah blah. Kinda reaches a point where sex almost becomes the initial part of any relationship. Just did it. There ya go, no thought involved - just consequences. It is these consequences that made me stop and think.

I have always been interested in celibacy, but more for the reason that I consider it a challenge. I love a challenge and it seems the ultimate challenge to become celibate after years of hormone driven youth and within a society and generation that actively promotes promiscuity, or at least looks down upon the virgin (I don't think many people consider celibacy to be a reality outside of virginity).

It is much harder than I imagined. As much as a woman may give you respect for not jumping into bed at the first given opportunity, she still thinks you are weird and after a while, usually a very short time indeed, seeks sexual satisfaction elsewhere. The upside of this however, is the number of excellent female friends I have due to this. If we had had sex, our relationship would be difficult, a certain tension never quite resolved, but we didn't and we are now left with a very intimate friendship. There is often a sexual tension remaining, but this becomes a positive energy and is not abused. It is said that the thrill of the chase is greater than the capture, and I may well agree, but the relationship with the fox afterward is much better if you don't catch and kill it.