Celibacy Erica

I am a 28-year old single parent (my son is 7-years old). So it is fairly obvious to others that I am not a virgin. In the urban environment in which I live (Los Angeles, California USA) some men take this as a sign that I sleep around. Admittedly, for a while I did. From the time I lost my virginity until the time I got pregnant with my son (roughly five years) I slept around quite a bit. However, with the birth of my son, I resolved to do better. I didn't want him to see me with one man after another. With his father gone off to pursue other women, I was at the time hoping to find another relationship. Didn't happen. What I kept running into, were men who were into the "hit and run" game. Of course, I didn't realize that I wasn't helping things any by demanding the respect to which I was entitled.

This all came to a screeching halt when I got pregnant, again, in early 1996. For the second time in my life I was pregnant by someone I hardly knew, and I wasn't making enough money to support the child I had. What became of the pregnancy is not important. What is important, is at that moment, I decided that celibacy until I found a good solid relationship based on mutual trust, love and affection was going to be the best bet for me. Don't get me wrong, though. It's not as if I haven't wanted to jump off the celibate bandwagon, but fortunately for me the guys were not interested so I was protected from myself.

Celibacy is a good choice for people that have been in any number of bad relationships. During this time I have been able to analyze my motivations and make a blueprint for what I really want instead of what all the magazines tell me I should. Also, I have become more spiritually centered, now that I don't have any of those "other" distractions. The sexual attractions are still there, and I still flirt, but I no longer feel compelled to act on those urges. Celibacy has taught me more about my self, and self control than I ever imagined